Women I speak to and coach, ask me questions like, how do I stay strong or how do I overcome this situation or that circumstance – and my answer is always the same, but I really want to explain a little more in detail.
Some time ago the daughter of a friend of mine made it to the cheerleading team, and the team appointed her to be their ‘flyer.’ She’ll be the one that climbs to the very top of the formation, and all the other girls will support her. She was scared and had to push through her initial fears to trust that the other girls would be there to support her through the routine and also catch her when she jumps off at the end.
Another friend of mine had a great opportunity to leave her current job that she absolutely hated to travel over 2000 miles across the country for her dream job that would provide more growth and advancement in her field. She was so nervous and fearful about the unknown. I remember her saying – “What if I get there and things don’t work out” and “what if my new coworkers hate me”? To this I replied, what if they absolutely love you and what if its the best decision you have ever made in your life.
This reminded me of the countless times my own fears kept me stuck. Our fears can be a very deadly tool; it can keep you trapped in the past – fear of the unknown, fear of rejection, and fear of abandonment can enclose you at a spot.
You ask yourself questions like – What if I’m not good enough? What if I get hurt? What if I try and then fail in this business? What if this is not a good move? What if I get passed up for another promotion? Having more faith in your negative beliefs and fear of failure, than in yourself and new possibilities.
FIGHT YOUR FEARS AND YOU’LL BE IN A BATTLE FOREVER. FACE YOUR FEARS AND YOU’LL BE FREE FOREVER. – LUCAS JONKMAN
The fact is everyone is afraid of failure whether in business, relationships or our personal lives. We may not all show it the same, but the feeling exists in each and every one of us. It is our attitude, and how we deal with it, that is most important.
If you want to achieve success in your life, then you must brace up to rise above the fears that prevent you from moving forward. The truth is that most of our fears are unfounded but an inevitable part of life. So why not face your fears? Why not take a different approach with facing your fears instead of allowing them to hold you captive?
Most of us know by now, our thoughts become our reality. What this means is when we buy into those dire predictions and give into our fears, it becomes a “self-fulfilling prophecy.” We find it more difficult to see a “light at the end of the tunnel,” and in most cases, we give up even before getting started.
You don’t need to let fear of the unknown keep you from achieving your dream or goal in life. You just have to equip yourself with the tools to know how to handle those fears every time it creeps into our lives. Someone once said that the only thing one should fear is fear itself. If you really want to achieve success in your personal life or business endeavors, you must cast out fear of any form by acknowledging it for what it is and then deciding not to let it stop you or hold you back.
The only person standing in your way is yourself, instead of sitting back and waiting for the worst to happen, you can decide today to do something about it.
Now is the time when it is imperative to go against your natural fear reaction and take action… in order to take control of our own destiny. Now is the time to take control over your life and not let fear dictate your future. Now is the time to look your fears in the face and tell them – I am in control and I have decided to no longer let you keep me from what is destined for me or keep me from being the greatness that I was created to be.