Women I speak to and coach, ask me questions like, how do I stay strong or how do I overcome this situation or that circumstance – and my answer is always the same, but I really want to explain a little more in detail.
Some time ago the daughter of a friend of mine made it to the cheerleading team, and the team appointed her to be their ‘flyer.’ She’ll be the one that climbs to the very top of the formation, and all the other girls will support her. She was scared and had to push through her initial fears to trust that the other girls would be there to support her through the routine and also catch her when she jumps off at the end.
Another friend of mine had a great opportunity to leave her current job that she absolutely hated to travel over 2000 miles across the country for her dream job that would provide more growth and advancement in her field. She was so nervous and fearful about the unknown. I remember her saying – “What if I get there and things don’t work out” and “what if my new coworkers hate me”? To this I replied, what if they absolutely love you and what if its the best decision you have ever made in your life.
This reminded me of the countless times my own fears kept me stuck. Our fears can be a very deadly tool; it can keep you trapped in the past – fear of the unknown, fear of rejection, and fear of abandonment can enclose you at a spot.
You ask yourself questions like – What if I’m not good enough? What if I get hurt? What if I try and then fail in this business? What if this is not a good move? What if I get passed up for another promotion? Having more faith in your negative beliefs and fear of failure, than in yourself and new possibilities.
FIGHT YOUR FEARS AND YOU’LL BE IN A BATTLE FOREVER. FACE YOUR FEARS AND YOU’LL BE FREE FOREVER. – LUCAS JONKMAN
We can help people overcome their fears by teaching them from an early age how to face it bravely and not feel too weak to overcome it. There’s no need telling yourself you can’t scale through a situation when you have not even tried! Save the judgment for later and go face the situation.
I always tell my kids that the only person standing in their way of reaching their goal is the person standing in front of the mirror. When people cease to imagine the worst thing that would come out of a situation, they could just take it on bravely and get it over with.
For me, the best way I face my fears is to tell myself the positive result of the actions I want to take. I’ll forget the possibility of failing and even if I do, I take it as one of those things in life.
For me, the best way I face my fears is to tell myself the positive result of the actions I want to take. I’ll forget the possibility of failing and even if I do, I take it as one of those things in life.
Fear has really crippled many successes and I’d people would just learn how to face it instead of cowering in a corner, there would be be a lot of achievements to celebrate.
Fear is a limiting factor that can hinder your progress. You just have to face time or forever stay fearful and live in mediocrity. Never settle for less.
Thanks for this awesome post on tackling fear. I’ve once been a victim of fear but I faced my fears instead of running away from them and today I’m happy I did the right thing.
Fear is just a false evil appearing real. I’ll also say that it is the negative of faith. One who is faithful isn’t fearful and vice versa. Thanks for the great write up. I’m inspired tremendously.
I will love to ask a question. Is it so difficult to face one’s fears? I’ve been battling with a fear that my relationship will never last long I’ve tried to face the fear, but all seems to be a wild goose chase. Please I need your advice
If there’s anything that can reduce a man to nothing, then I’ll call that fear. Fear of the unknown is worse of all. It’s good to be fearful, but it shouldn’t decide your life. I’m really motivated and I’d love to share some stories here. I hope I am Permitted…